The Three “C’s”

A lot of people say to us, “How have you been able  to maintain your sanity after thirteen years in court?" I started to think about this. I have come with what I call "The Three C’s”. These have worked for me, I hope they work for you. Remember, it will take practice, we will be here to help you along the way.


Remember, no matter is happening in your life, no matter how messed up you think your life is, you have to reach way down and find the Courage to go on. Not only go on, but to do it in a dignified manner. You have to be able to withstand anything that is thrown at you. So when your ex is giving you problems, court is not going your way, you feel your attorney could be doing more, it’s hard to go to work, you feel your plate is overflowing.. Reach down for the Courage to go on.


Once you find the Courage to go on, you will then start to develop Confidence. Confidence to be able to sort through everything that you have on your plate. You have to take one thing at a time. Do not try to do everything at once. It will be to overwhelming. But you have to believe that you can do it.


With Courage, Confidence comes Control. With Control, you will be able to control your emotions. You will be able to think more clearly, which means you will be able to make clear rational decisions. I started to think about this control factor for a moment.  The biggest part about this is Controling Your Emotions . This is probably one of  the most difficult things to do. Its something that has to be worked on everyday. Emotions make people do things that they would not ordinarily do. Think about this for a moment. Did you ever watch Star Trek? Do you remember Spock? Spock has no emotions. He is able to make very difficult decisions under tremendous pressure. Now I know its just a T.V show. But Spock illustrates what I’m trying to convey to you. So I have called this The Spock Factor. I’m not saying to be like this all of the time. I find that during court this can come in handy. Or in other situations as well. Such as talking to your ex on the phone or in person, or issues that are related to your children. Leave the emotions out of it. That is how we have been able to maintain our sanity all of these years. Remember no matter what is going on in your life maintain control.

One last thing. As I have said before. I’m not a Doctor, Lawyer, or expert by any means. I’m a Father just like you. Both my wife and I continue to fight for our children. We will continue to fight for our children. Just like you. The things that we are talking about we have used. We continue to use them everyday. We hope that with A Fathers they will work for you as well.